Blog No.178 – Lucy’s Fetish Closet Blog No.2
Anyone that loves fashion or/and footwear would have heard of Vivienne Westwood. She was a legend in her own right. Quirky and eccentric yet a very clever lady.
To have a designer mind you have to have your own way of thinking and don’t let anyone sway you. It is so easy to copy other designs and put your own ideas to them but to reconstruct a shirt for example and build your way is an art in itself.
When it came to shoes there were no others like them. If there were, they would have copied her designs and not the other way around.
To think of making shoes out of rubber was a genius idea. The padded sole may stop you from soaking the
whole shoe in a bowl of water but there is no need to. Just run it under warm water and wipe it down with a cloth or sponge and you have nice clean shoes again. Do that on any other shoes and the fabric will be ruined whether it be leather or PVC etc
Anyone that is a Rubber/Latex kinkster they will understand that the feel and sound of the movement and touch of it is fabulous in its own way. To find shoes that would go with their latex stockings, bodysuit or skirt is a dream come true.
When latex is worn correctly it can look amazing. Oiled to give it that beautiful sheen when the light bounces off it. Absolutely fabulous darling.
Size 7 to 8…
So it is time for me to sort out my closet and pass these gorgeous shoes to another that deserves them.
Although the black court shoes are a size 7 they could fit a size 8 foot also. When you in latex stockings or tights it will grab perfectly to the shoe itself.
The sling-back shoes are very Audrey Hepburn type of look. They are also a size 7 but are a close fitting shoe so if you are in between a 6 and 7 then they would fit lovely. They have an adjustable strap at the heel where you can make them tighter or looser depending on the fit of your foot. Again they would go very well with latex hosiery.
When I first saw this design of shoe I was amazed at how the whole shoe was made out of one molded piece of rubber. Then a padded insole was placed just so for more comfort to the ball and heel of the foot.
They are very comfortable and I am in 2 minds about whether to sell them but I have to, unfortunately, to make more room in my shoe closet.
They make the ankle and calf look so elegant that cladding your lower leg in latex is the only real way to do this footwear justice.
The peep-toe of the sling-back, kitten-heel shoe just gives you a glance at the toe to make you intrigued as to know how the whole foot looks out of the shoe and in the hosiery of the lady’s choice. Very attractive to the eye indeed.
Rubber Shoes that you can have for your own…
So if you are tempted to buy any of these most flattering shoes then message me and we can discuss it from there.
I will look forward to hearing from you sweetie x
Blog No.177 – Lucy’s Fetish Closet Blog No.1
Let me update you briefly so that you will know a little about the situation even if you haven’t known about me before.
I decided to create a website to sell fetish wear in 2020 and launched it on December 31st so I would go into the new year with a grand entrance.
Oh, dear was I so wrong about it all. So, continue reading and I will let you know the full story…
How It All Started…
I have always had the idea that I would like to have my own fetish website right from when started 17 maybe even 18 years ago. Somewhere I could share my love of corsets, wigs, etc, and sell them to all my admires, cross-dressing sissy maids, etc…
I have a few friends but not many know about my hobby. So the few that knew I told them my ideas and they loved it. It’s best to have people like the same thing and then I could be myself and not have to hide anything. As regular people don’t understand the fetish world.
My ideas were always going to be elaborate as I had multiple amounts of thoughts and to mix them all up to connect with each other would be so much fun. Little did I know that it wasn’t that easy, designing, yes but actually building it, no. As a beginner, it was a massive task.
Keeping Myself Occupied During Lockdown…
So being that we were in lockdown for most of 2020 I thought it would be a good idea to start the website then to occupy my mind. I love being in my home with my kitty cats anyway but keeping me busy is essential as I get bored very quickly when I don’t have anything to do.
I had always had an interest in web designing for years. I tried to do it twice before, it was a complete fail as I tried to do it cheaply and at hardly any cost. Of course, it failed even before I started. This time I thought to myself I am not giving up until I succeed. I could say that I had the capital this time. We managed to raise £10k between us. Would it be enough? Not sure but we were going to give it a go.
Researching The Topic…
I first started looking at youtube videos on how to build a website with word press. I was advised that this was the easiest website for beginners to adapt to. I had been researching for years but I was much more serious about it now. I had tried to follow the videos previously only to come to brick walls each time. The reason was that the video was a year or 2 old and the word press that I was working with had been updated several times in that space of that time. So the screens that I could see on my laptop were different from what was on the video.
A Helping Hand Just At The Right Time…
Skipping a couple of days later, I received a phone call from a website that I had looked at online one night whilst browsing. I must have pressed an inquiry button and forgotten about it. I randomly answered the call. I very rarely pick up unexpected calls that I don’t know who it is.
The chap was very nice and he was saying all the right things that I need to hear at that moment. As I was not having any luck starting my website he was a breath of fresh air. So because he was experienced in that field of intelligence I automatically warmed to his conversation.
We spoke for about 30 minutes and concluded to have another phone call to talk over the details of the website that I particularly wanted. After the 2nd phone call, I agreed that I needed professional advice and maybe someone to start my website with the basics. I then could edit it myself according to my plans.
At the end of the business transaction, he ended up starting me on a word press website theme that I could very easily adapt to and build what I wanted with it.
A Lot Of Late Nights/Ealy Mornings…
Many nights I stayed up into the early hours of the morning. Learning how to make pages and linking them with permalinks and buttons to interlink everything together. (Wow look at me as if I know what I’m talking about Ha Ha Ha). Really making the pages so enthralling and interesting to the kinkster that they would want to click onto the next page and next page and never want to stop.
I was like a kid in a candy store wanting to try every sweet that there was to offer. My brain grew from a pea to a brussel sprout size within weeks Ha Ha Ha It was a standing joke amongst my friends.
100mph Thought Tank 24/7…
Each day I would open my eyes from resting my stressed brain and automatically be thinking what the next thing I had to do for the website. One of the things that really worried me was that I would be sharing these ideas with my partner friends and then not be able to deliver and show them the website. Many a time I had doubt in myself but it was because I was learning as I was building this amazing idea into reality. Every time I had an ounce of doubt, an ounce of confidence in another idea would counteract the doubt. I didn’t want to be all talk and no action as this was an amazing project and I so badly wanted it to happen.
So Much Fun Spending Money…
In between days of working on the website, I would take time out and do some online shopping for the products that I was planning to list on my website. As a woman, I was in my element. Females and shopping are like duck and water it just goes together so well. Dangerous in some cases but in my case if I didn’t have any products I had nothing to sell my avid onlookers.
Interaction Fetish Subscription…
As I was halfway to the completion another idea came to my thoughts. An interaction fetish subscription section. “Dam,” I said, “this could be wild to play when is fully finished”. As I mentioned before I have mad ideas sometimes and most of them are bigger and more expensive than I could ever afford to do.
If anyone is interested in funding the idea then by all means message me and we can chat about it. As unfortunately I never got to start it, let alone complete it.
As the seasons changed and the months passed so it was getting closer to finishing the project but there was one last major thing to put into place… the payment system.
One of my friends was a business tech guy that knew a lot about computers and behind the scenes. He was also very good at researching a subject and finding out how it worked even though he wasn’t familiar with it.
We tried to connect with Paypal in the right way they liked us to do it. There are lots of rules and regulations with this company and what a palaver that was.
Descretion Is Key…
When it was finally set up I then thought that customers won’t want Lucy’s Fetish Closet on their bank statements. Not having done this before I didn’t realize until it was too late to change. So I tried to change the email address that was connected in the back office so the receipt email the customer would receive would not have the website name on it. I was trying to think of all angles so it was a smooth operation and not have any paper trace connected to Lucy’s Fetish Closet but it was becoming impossible.
The only way would be to change the title of the website and that would be an enormous job to do.
Maybe I was thinking too hard about this and because of that, I was causing most of the mix-up because I wanted to change too many things and it was just complicating everything.
At this point, I wish I had taken up the offer that the chap who helped me start all of this. I didn’t take it because he quoted me £10,000.00 for a fully-fledged website. Wow so much money when I could do it myself.
Respect To All Web Designs…
Now, sitting here typing this blog I am in ore of all website designers (especially the chap who is running this website for me). There is more going on in the back office than you realize.
So when we got the website to a level of what we were happy with we decided on a launch day and stuck to it. Being that it was new years eve my friends had partners and wanted to be with them. I was fine with that as I like my own company.
The launch day came and I was a bag of nerves. I kept going onto the website to see if everything was working and connecting right but by 4 pm I stopped. Otherwise, I would have probably done something that would have mucked it all up. Then it wouldn’t work at all.
I decided to get dressed up for the occasion to make it feel special to me. After all, this was my baby, and my friends were just silent partners (which they had agreed on at the beginning).
11;30pm I checked on where the release button was to launch the website so I would be ready. Right, I’m all ready and sitting waiting. Coffee in one hand and stroking a kitty cat in the other who was on my lap to keep me calm.
5. 4. 3. 2. and I pressed the button to set the website live. Now because the fireworks from neighbors went off at the strike of 12 midnight it made me jump and look away. So I didn’t see if the button was pressed in the correct way. I sat there in confusion. I went onto my phone to see if it was live and it came up with the coming soon page. ” OMG,” I thought. So I texted a friend “can you check the website on your phone or laptop please?”.
Sometimes because my devices are logged and recognized to the website, my devices may react differently to other people’s devices that are not connected to my wifi.
Very Over Whelming…
Yes, they said they could see Lucy’s Fetish Closet in all its glory on their mobiles. I sat back in astonishment. I had to pinch myself to believe it So what happens now???
I suppose because it was new years eve everyone had parties to go to etc and were busy. I had a few texts come through congratulating me on all my good work. Which I was really happy with but no orders. ‘Oh’ i thought maybe they are just browsing and will order tomorrow.
I ended up going to bed around 1 am as I was so exhausted from all the work and build-up to the launch. That night’s sleep was restless. I woke several times but was not tempted to sneak a look at the website. I thought I would wait til I actually woke properly.
Such A Shame…
In the whole 6 months that Lucys Fetih Closet was live I got 1 order for a pair of panties. It was such a heartbreaking experience that when the renewal for the website came around I went on and closed the site down. It’s not worth keeping something going if I’m not getting any comeback from it.
Ghosting Is not Nice…
I researched afterward about why I didn’t do well. For some Adult website owners, it is very hard to get recognition because there are lots of (again) rules and regulations on social media to do with this topic. It doesn’t matter how much you post about your website if the social media website doesn’t like you then they will shadow-ban you and no one will see your posts.
This is what happened to me on Instagram. I was on there for years trying to get some following and within 5 years or so I only got 400 followers. Twitter is different as it’s more lenient with images etc but even so.
The pandemic had a lot to do with it as well. Everyone was holding back their money in many cases as they didn’t know what was happening from one month to the next and bills where their top priority.
All in all, I gained a lot of experience from the project and it has made me much wiser on online matters but the world is still going through money troubles.
I think anyone that has succeeded online has had the right people in the business to help them and a lot of money to back them up.
I still have not recovered from the debt that the website has put me in and I will be struggling to repay my friends for a good few years to come.
Luckily they are very good friends and completely understand the situation.
Advice To Anyone That Wants To Build An Adult-Themed E-commerce Website…
So to anyone that is looking at building a website, do your homework first. Plan and plan again before you start anything. As it may look easy but there’s a lot more to look into before the manual build of the website itself.
At least if I have this opportunity again I will have a better understanding and knowledge to start the project at A B C and not be jumping in at D before starting with A, if that makes sense.
So the way forward with Lucy’s Fetish Closet is to use the title still but advertise the products in blogs with links to pages for the individual products (or something like that). I will update you as and when I do the blogs. As I will be releasing them one by one so I will trickle them into my social media and not overwhelm you with too many at the same time.
If you would like to know anything else about websites etc or even purchase anything you have seen in my photography on my social media then I would be happy to hear from you.
Take care in all you do sweetie and stay safe, ML x
Oh my hasn’t time flown by sweetie? I can not believe it was December 2022 that I last blogged. So much has happened since then. With the world and with me. I will try to blog more often as I do enjoy it.
I decided to delve deeper into selling my items on eBay. What an experience that has been as it has been very much yet another learning curve.
Late Nights and Early mornings…
So all the people that have known me for a while I am all or nothing type of person. I put my all into a topic or I won’t do it at all. So I decided to sell all the items that I could on the eBay platform that they would let me.
I have been working strange hours, when the mood gets me I just work through and that’s how I can get masses of items listed. I put my all into my descriptions of each product so the buyer really gets the feel for who I am and what the item is all about.
There’s a fine line between what is acceptable and what is pushing their policy rules. As we say 1 rule for one and a completely different rule for another. So I listed a complete maid’s outfit on there with a wig and accessories. Had 3 different listings on there with 3 different wigs.
7.38 am yesterday morning all 3 items were taken off there plus 18 more items from my shop. I had been up all night and several other consecutive nights working on those listings.
What I don’t understand is this… It’s not the word CROSSDRESSING or UNISEX or MAIDS OUTFIT that is violating their policy. It is because it is in a real setting and on a human being.
I would have thought that would have been much more appealing to bring buyers into my shop to buy things. Maybe my way of thinking is out of the box and this world is boring and lifeless when it comes to advertising. There are too many rules and regulations when it comes to adult products. I didn’t even have any body parts showing in my photos as they were all covered with emojis or blurred out.
Still, I have stopped worrying about that as I can advertise things on here in a tasteful way of course. I won’t get as many viewings as eBay but I will get niche viewings. which is better in the long run.
So I have added some photos to this blog so you can see what I am selling. I won’t be able to work my website like a shop as it doesn’t have a payment facility but if you contact me to let me know what you are interested I and then we can discuss what I can send you etc…
Mistress Lucy’s Fetish Closet (New Style)…
I will explain all about the original Lucy’s Fetish Closet in a separate blog as there is a lot to go over.
So this time I will look at my shop in a different way on a smaller and simpler scale. Which will be just as great but I will have to keep my big ideas for another project if the opportunity arises.
I always like big and wonderful projects but Lucy’s Fetish Closet would have taken a lot more money than I could have arranged to have.
So now I will post my photography of the items I’m selling and if you would like to purchase anything then just contact me and I will be happy to discuss your requirements.
This time it will be payment via bank transfer only. I am a very genuine and trustworthy person and I have had many clients pay me in bank transfers many times over the past years.
I understand there are many scammers and frauds around this day ( I have been a victim to many) but I am here to help you receive your fetish items and be a friend, not to take your money one time and block you like a lot of stories of mistresses I have heard in the past.
Explaining about me is not going to help you make your decision but only you can do that but I do hope we can be friends so I can treat you with lots of free gifts in your orders.
I will look forward to receiving your message and inquiries. Take care in all you do and stay safe, ML x
Saturday 11th June 2022
When I first decided to have an online business I never would have thought it would have been this stressful and brain-busting. I am very much a manual type of person. Sitting down and using the back office part of my brain has never been my strong point, until now.
I have done loads of homework before I made the decision to begin putting my plan into action. In January 2020 I started thinking very seriously about my career because of the pandemic. Coming into contact with my appointments and putting myself at risk every time I meet a stranger was worrying me to the extent of only doing online work and slowly steering away from physical appointments.
I sat down with my business partner and spoke my mind to see what he would do. He recommended not to give up on appointments, well not yet. carry on with them but test before meeting each one. Then when business picks up and it covers my earnings then I can think about what to do about appointments.
Well, we are now in June and unfortunately, it has taken this long to iron out all the creases and problems www.LucysFetishCloset.com has had. So although I did all the hyping up of the website last year, I can honestly say it was a slow start.
So I will be blogging about items that I will be selling on there so you can get an insight as to why these items are used and things that you can use them with.
Some people that are very vanilla/straight-laced do not know about the fetish industry until they are told about it or explained about certain things.
So much fun to be had in every which way. If you would like to know more about whatever you wish then Contact me and we can converse in whatever form you feel comfortable.
Take care in all you do and don’t be silly, be safe.
Learning a new skill from scratch is quite difficult until you know how. Then when you know how it’s the maintaining and upgrading it when it needs it. Nothing easy and if it is it’s not worth pursuing it.
January itself was a strange month as I launched Lucys Fetish Closet on 1st January at @12 midnight. Before then I had had this project under wraps and no one could see it, which was comforting (like my baby) but then when it was out in the open it made me feel different about myself.
I would sit looking through it and think “wooooow i have just made that website”. It took a while to sink in but I think it just has now.
2021 was a big eye-opener for me. As you would have read before, I have always wanted to have an e-commerce website (for the 14 years I have been in the industry) so I can do as I please and show you all that is possible.
I have looked at many youtube videos to see the process from the influencers that have started similar businesses. I realize that I am nowhere near as popular as they are and the reaction to my website will not be as explosive as it was and is with them.
Over time I am hoping that I will make decent sales but I think first it will be ‘The Dark Side’ subscription that could take off much better.
The interest in that project has been amazing. It is because you will be able to take your own fantasy journey from your own device. Choose who you want to be at that moment in time and then switch to another character when the last emotion has worn off.
I appreciate everyone that has helped me and stayed by my side since it began. Believe me, this is only the start as I have many ideas for photos, videos, and more.
If you want to try your hand at being a master or mistress, Sub or slave then The Dark Side will show you that way. This is not going to be anime or Simms but a real journey that will help you bring your wildest BDSM fantasies to life (well from your device).
Then if you wish to act out your fantasies that you have seen on your device then there may be an opportunity for you to do so in the future. This is something else I have in mind but that will be a project that I will have to get other people involved in. I will keep you updated when I can.
Well, I just wanted to update you on the progress of Lucy’s Fetish Closet as I have been extremely busy with taking appointments when I can together with working on projects in the back office of both websites.
I will keep you posted on my social media every day and do message me whenever you wish as I love to hear from you.
Take care in all you do and talk again soon…
Wednesday 29th December 2021
This is just a short blog today to say that I need a few days off from blogging. Reasons being that I am aiming for 1st January for launch day for Lucy’s fetish closet.
I Love blogging but I need to concentrate…
I love blogging but as you can see from the previous content that I can not do short blogs. They take a good 3 – 5 hours to put together (i am a very particular writer) and I really need to put that time onto the website, tweaking it so it will be ready.
So I will take the next few days off (depending on how the launch goes) is depending on when I return. I am not disappearing again don’t worry. I will be back very soon.
I will let you all know how it is going by posting on my social media so you won’t miss out on the journey. I may put something brief on here but nothing to elaborate on.
Excitement is Like Nothing I have Experienced Before…
I am very excited about the launch as it has been in the making for 10 to 12 months now. As you all know I am very particular, you will not be disappointed in the end result.
No one is more excited than me to be able to look through my website at ease without having to edit it or do anything to it.
The launch will be on for trial for 7 days with a particular amount of people that are involved in the whole project. This is so I can have feedback if there is anything that needs to be corrected.
If anyone that has looked at it (because it will be live to the world but not everyone knows about it yet) does find any mishaps, mistakes, or things not working please let me know. CONTACT ME on this link or a link from the website and I will be able to correct it asap.
My First Website Building It From Scratch…
This is the first website that I have built myself and learnt from scratch so please take it easy on me if there are things that need to be fixed. I’m learning as I go.
www.mistress-lucy.co.uk has been created by www.https://www.eliteukmistresses.co.uk/
He has helped me helped a lot in a few tips of knowledge on blogging etc. Peter is worth his weight in gold for what he has done for me. I am extremely grateful for you sweetie. You have expanded my knowledge in ways I didn’t think were possible. I am forever thankful.
Doing It Alone…
I know I should have had help in the making of it but I wanted to learn all the steps and procedures myself. If things go wrong for any reason I then know why and hopefully attend to fixing the problem immediately.
So as I say I will keep you posted on everything and will be in touch very soon. Nervous and excited but I know I can do this. Here’s to the next phase in Mistress Lucy’s life.
Take care in all you do, stay safe, and talk soon…
Saturday 18th December 2021
Blog No.156/ Blogmas No.18
Restriction is a small word for such a big fetish. To Anyone that doesn’t know much about it, they would think wrong things about it. If you are really into it then it can be very arousing and erotic if you are in the right frame of mind.
For someone that is not familiar with their mistress, mental restriction is the best way to ease their uncertainty. To tell them to put their hands in a certain position is much more comfortable for their ease so that if they don’t want to continue or feel they need to move their arms ect they can.
Cuffs and Rope…
When they are happier in your presence then cuffs and rope can
be introduced. A connection between the mistress and sub is essential for the session to flow just right when using physical restriction equipment. Depending on the type of cuffs you can have the wrists and ankles immobilized separately or hogtied and have them linked together. This all depends on the mobility of the subs joints. I am all for pleasurable pain that lasts for hours but not pain that they have difficulty with for days after the session has ended.
Now, this is very exciting to use in a session. Again depending on the sub’s mobility and fitness is depending on what position you are able to suspend them in. I have hooks in the ceiling of my dungeon so this is possible. Like Japanese rope art if you suspend the sub in a beautifully decorative way the sub’s limbs will be restricted but they
have no cushioning from the rope on their body. So if the sub is inexperienced this could be very uncomfortable for them. The heavier the body the more painful the rope will be on the flesh. Restrictive rope art is much more pleasant on a bench as your body weight will not discomfort you at all.
Smaller Restrictive Equipment…
When a sub needs to be put in restraints it doesn’t only have to be cuffs or rope there are lots of other ways. Cuffs can mean Metal Thumb Cuff, Metal Handcuffs ( police role play), Leather Cuffs, Armbinder, Humbler, Ball Crusher of multiple materials, Testicle Weights, Chastity Devices of all shapes and designs. The list can go on.
Leather Body Bag With Detachable Hood…
Restriction is applied with this body bag. From your neck to feet it has multiple leather strapping to further restrict all movement. If you have an itch then you have to sort it before your incased. To have your full body in restrictive wear it can be very exciting to have your control taken away. To be teased from all angles and not be able to do anything about it can blow your mind. If you have fully given your whole being to your mistress for the session it makes the time
together that bit more intense. Leather has no give in it, unlike faux leather or material. So if you are getting your body bag customized then be sure to add on a few inches in places so it fits you with no sore patches.
Lucy’s Fetish Closet…
If you wish to have one of these leather body bags including a hood yourself CONTACT ME and we can discuss your requirements as they are customized. If you wish to change the design that is possible.
Restriction is For Everyone…
Even if it does not appeal to you there are ways around these things to take part in this but by your rules. I do my session by asking and fully understanding what the client wants first before even walking into the dungeon. Restriction can take place anyway. It does not have to be a BDSM setting. CONTACT ME if you are interested and we can discuss it further.
Sunday 10th October 2021
Well hello, sweetie…
It has been a while but I have been extremely busy all in all. I really can’t afford to be writing a new blog (time is of the essence) but I would like to let you know about the new additions to my Fetish Dungeon that maybe you can enjoy someday.
The reason I have bought these things and had them erected in my fetish photo studio Is that I want to place them on my shop on Lucy’s Fetish Closet website that I’m still working on.
It is so much fun finding amazing things to show you. A lot of stress and a lot of time is being spent doing all this homework but it will be worth it in the long run.
I have found anything from erotic biscuit cutters to chastity cages or even a full leather heavy-duty restriction bag with an attachable heavy-duty hood to match.
I found out it was better to have the hood that’s not attached to the main part of the sack as then it can be used with the different hoods if need be.
I have found I have become more of a perfectionist with this 2nd website than I have with this one. I know I have not designed this one and it was sculpted by a professional website designer (Thank you, Peter, much appreciated) but I have put a fair bit of content in it.
As it is with everyone, we have to start off at the bottom (excuse the pun), and as we get more confident and much more experienced we can if we wish go on and expand to big and better things.
Don’t worry I am not giving up this website, far from it. This is my early years of becoming a mistress. Without this website, I would not be what I am today.
I can’t believe it has been 14 years that I have been in this industry. As I say we all have to start somewhere and I am grateful for all the experiences I have gone through to get me here today.
One of the things I have learnt and that is patience. Woweee building a website and especially my own has proved that I don’t know when to be happy.
I have been advised to build it basic and then add on to it from there on. I just find more amazing things to ad on. I’m like a child in a candy shop.
As I mentioned earlier, I have become a perfectionist in more ways than one. I know I can not learn everything overnight but I want your experience to be fantastic and not disappointing.
Maybe you come across a small mistake that makes you think I have failed at producing a so-called fabulous website that everyone has waited so long to see.
Being a Lone Trader…
Doing everything on my own is tough. I have learnt many things in these months since I started putting my thoughts into a project but having to trust someone with all the work I have done would be heart-wrenching.
I know I have to someday, otherwise I am going to live a shorter quality of life with many grey hairs (i can see more appearing day by day lol).
That’s business and if we want to be our own boss then we all have to go through it.
I was speaking with a friend the other day and he was telling me about the same worries he had. His were on a much larger scale but still in the same context.
Having to give up a very successful business through no fault of his own. Contracts falling through because of the economy changing.
Then his workers not being satisfied even when he was practically giving them the shirt off his back. In the end, he decided to give it all up and work alone.
Being the only one in your company has its benefits and disadvantages.
Benefits – You can work when you want and do what you want.
Disadvantages – Saying no to clients is difficult in some trades. In the back of your mind, you don’t know when the next job is going to be with you.
Although now it’s catch 22 for my friend. As he is so particular and perfect in the way he does things he has become very popular.
Word and mouth have spread and everyone wants him. It’s great to be in demand but only to a certain level.
There is only a certain amount of hours in the day. Only a certain amount of appointments he can take in 1 day.
Now it has got enough work to cover him for 7 days a week, 24 hours a day for the next 3 months.
Conundrum… Does he take on help or not? That is the question.
I can totally understand what he was saying to me because if I’m not careful I could be in the same situation.
Being self-employed is very tough sometimes. What I am is slightly different. Although if i took everyone that contacted me for an appointment I would be similar.
Lockdown and the past couple of years have made me think as it has done with most of us. As I take actual appointments I need to have multiple streams of income and not rely on meeting appointments.
Don’t get me wrong I do enjoy sharing my skill and enjoyment with all of you but the pandemic has really tarnished it.
Before all this pandemic situation started I was not apprehensive of meeting new clients. Now it’s like I have to ask a string of questions even before I think about inviting anyone to visit me. It’s a must and unfortunately not my fault.
So as you see, my absence on social media has been me sitting around doing nothing as some people tend to think and have mentioned.
It’s been far from it. I have a list of things to do around the house and in the garden etc that I really want to do (D.I.Y is my hobby) but I don’t have the time.
If I do, then the website sits waiting for another day. Trust me I annoy myself. I am more excited to get it launched than anyone on this planet.
As I know what I want to achieve and I know I can do it, I want it launched yesterday. Until it is at a standard that is flowing I will not launch it.
Now I know why e-commerce websites are so expensive to build with professional website developers. Then it is the basics that they give you.
As then I have to have my personal touch to make me mine.
So what you see on this website has been at least 4 or more years of work. Not constant just bits and pieces here and there but it has still taken time.
Mmmmm maybe I will become a website developer once I get over the tribulations of building Lucys Fetish Closet.
There are no links to it at the moment until it is launched. Then don’t you worry everyone will know about it.
Then I will be blogging about how I’m getting only 2 hours of sleep a night because I’m on social media 24/7 lol sod’s law isn’t it.
Well, I think I have gone on enough now with my life update and need to get back to web designing.
Take care sweetie. Stay safe and healthy and talk soon…
Wednesday 14th July 2021
Good evening sweetie (or good morning or afternoon depending on when you are reading this post),
Wow does time fly when you’re having fun or not…
It has been a while since we have last spoken on here. As they say never enough hours in the day.
My 2nd website (Lucys Fetish Closet) has taken up so much time and it is has taught me a lot. I know many that have released websites for new business ventures have made and launched their websites quicker.
I have been learning from scratch and building and doing everything myself. Yes, there have been friends that have been willing to help me but I think if I teach myself (as there are many successful entrepreneurs that are self-taught in many things) if something goes wrong then I will know where it went wrong.
In online business, we all have to learn how to trust people and businesses. I say this because even working on my own I still have put my website in the hands of hosting companies. They are the ones that can only deal with that side.
As a mistress, I am used to being in control of everything that I have within my business. So the trust issues that I have always had have taught me a few lessons, uncomfortable lessons but I have got through them eventually.
The launch of the website is near. It is due to be released on 1st August, fingers crossed. I have to give myself a deadline to work towards otherwise I could spend forever perfecting it.
The subscription section has to come later so I can spend time on that and build it will confidence. Trying to do everything at once is becoming impossible. So things have to be done in sections to be able to complete them to a particular standard, my standard.
So apart from the website I have been self-isolating and keeping myself healthy and away from the crazy crowds of the pandemic.
It has not been good in a way as I developed anxiety about people. If you are invited into my home for an appointment then I am fine.
If I have to go out of my front door and away from my house I am a complete mess inside. I still wear a mask for the whole time I’m out and never take it off. I also wear glasses with just glass to protect my eyes.
Call me O.T.T but I have to. It may have got a lot deeper than that and I will admit I am afraid of dying and leaving my kitties behind ( I have to stop listening to the media as it’s mainly their fault pandemic anxiety is amongst us). If I didn’t have them then I don’t think I would be like this.
Now you have seen the soft side to mistress Lucy. Yes, I do have a soft side as well as being a hard-nosed bitch sometimes.
Thinking about it and I am not getting morbid on the subject but nobody wants to leave this earth before their time. Let alone to something that we can control such as the pandemic.
If only everyone was as careful as the sensible ones then we wouldn’t be in this mess we are in right now (don’t get me on my soapbox about public mass gatherings and football matches etc). That’s a whole different subject to talk about.
Well on that note I will say bye for now and plod on with the rest of my website. I will keep you updated. Don’t worry if I’m not on social media too much but I will be when I can.
Stay safe and healthy and talk soon…
Saturday 17th April 2021
Good afternoon Sweetie,
I hope you are well and have kept well over the few months that have passed.
Now how do I start…It’s been a little while since I last spoke to you but after 5 months of lockdown, we are now on the first or second stage ( don’t know which stage we are in but I know it’s either of them) of a slightly better life. Although Monday the 12th April people went a little bit crazy on the celebrating and I just hope that does send us plummeting back into another lockdown again.
I have been extremely busy with burring my head in the website business as like before. I am plodding through it but the thing that is slowing me down is perfection.
I’m not saying it has to perfect in a professional way but perfect in my way. As the years have gone past I have become a perfectionist in certain things and my mistressing and career (which really I can call it that now) are definitely one of those things that I am particular in.
I feel that I owe a lot to you. As without you, I wouldn’t be where I am today. You’ve helped me grow my confidence in many areas that once upon a time I wouldn’t even try to attempt, let alone succeed in my dreams.
The new website has also helped me decide to be the true me. I still am Mistress Lucy but to do business you can not have anything to hide.
So that is why you will see in many places I will be my own name and answer to my real name. I will say one thing though… if you want to session with me I must be known as Mistress Lucy and stay as Mistress Lucy or lucy on a friendlier point.
It puts me in the right frame of mind as trying to switch at the flick of a button is possible but you won’t get the best out of me that way.
A few people in the past because they have seen my real name on my email address they have addressed as that. I have been very annoyed with them back then.
This is why I say you need to address me as you mean to go on.
So I thought I would keep you updated with is going on with me at the moment. Many have thought I have given up mistressing because I have not been on social media so much lately.
I am still here but the website takes up so much time, you wouldn’t believe.
At one point I was working nocturnally for a good few weeks. This was because I would get into what I was doing and just continue on till my eyes would refuse to stay open anymore.
I did know at some point in the previous weeks that were getting closer to now that I would have to get back into a normal (I’m never normal lol) but a going to bed at 12 midnightish and getting up at 9amish ( i say ish because some times it was earlier and sometimes it was a little later). So I would be in routine for taking my appointments again.
So Monday 12th April arrives, the week starting back taking appointments….
It felt a little strange I will admit. I felt like a beginner again. I have moved my upstairs around to benefit the popularity of my appointments so everything was in a different place. Finding out where things were was a bit daunting ( like in someone else’s Dungeon) but i familarised myself with everything fairly quickly.
I was lucky as my first appointment was a gent i had known for a while and he wasn’t too hardcore. A little chatting whilst a trim of the outgrown hairstyle he was wearing and then mild tie and tease to satisfy his needs.
I always go with the flow. If you have a checklist in your mind and then the body language doesn’t agree with what you are doing it needs to change to accommodate his happy side of kinky.
I only take 1 appointment a day. As i prefer to take 2-3 hour appointments. Then if it goes overtime then it’s not a problem.
I don’t do what I do for only tribute but bills need to be paid. So this is why I say if it goes over time because we are enjoying ourselves (or i’m enjoying myself teasing you lol) we can carry on and I won’t ask or expect any more tribute.
I will say…Many have gifted me with extra tribute and actual gifts but that is completely down to you. I am not demanding in any way and do not expect it.
The rest of the week was my long-term eager clients/friends that were desperate for haircuts and another pair of hands on them in whatever way I chose to do so.
Being used to my own time for the past 5 months or longer has made me do as I please. Having appointments does give me a routine as I’m sure you agree.
I now truly know that mistressing is in my blood. I knew that before but the experience over the years has made me realize that I will never change.
The sad news of Prince Philip’s passing has made me also realize that I may have Mistress Lucy engraved on my headstone.
‘Mistress Lucy a powerful but hard businesswoman, that wouldn’t take any backchat from anyone. She will be missed but will be tattooed on every heart that she has punished’.
I’m not being down on the subject but just being reflective. As we all have a good thing or 2 that we would like to be remembered for.