Thursday 22nd July 2021
Blog No. 137.
This may seem like a very direct question but it is a question that a lot of people lack confidence in this subject.
They keep it secret for their own personal reason but doing this could make you lose out on fun times with your partner.
Confidence is a necessary thing to have in all you do. I say this because if you are not happy in general with your partner then they could lose interest in your relationship.
I have been mistressing for 14 years (time flies when you’re having fun) and throughout that time I have learnt a lot about relationships.
How so many guys are secretly visiting a mistress to fulfill their fantasies because they’re frightened to ask their partner to act out the fantasy in their intimate times.
Putting your partner on a pedestal can sometimes fog over your true feelings for certain fetish topics. As you don’t want them to think of you any differently that may hinder your home life.
Being a dominatrix mistress has opened up my mind in so many ways and one of them is listening to guy’s problems that they have at home.
I don’t pry but ask questions that helps me get to know why they like certain fetishes.
A lot of the time I believe that if they were to approach the subject of their fantasy to their partner in a certain way then eventually they would have a better relationship at home.
Many say that they are very happy with their wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend but if they were happy then why are they contacting me…
When a new client looks at my website they will think that an Old School Mistress like myself would only be handcuffs and caning in sessions.
My sessions are not always hardcore and toys. I am a mistress with a difference.
Through the years I have been classed as a unique mistress because of the services I incorporate in my sessions or can do depending on what the client requires.
To have a near on perfect session I always like to chat with you to start with. The reason being, so I can understand why they like a certain fetish and where the reason stems from.
Call this therapy if you wish but it is not only chatting on a settee but the appointment has a physical side to it as well.
I show you mentally and physically how you can connect deeper with your partner in ways that you may not have thought of before.
Don’t misunderstand me by thinking I will get physical with you in a sexual way. That is not what I mean as I am not that kind of mistress.
The way I connect with you is helping you become more confident in how to make your partner feel more attracted to you. How to open her mind up to accepting your fetish.
It will not be instant but over time it will happen. Be patient and you will be able to reap your reward.
I understand that not every relationship is a physical one but a bit of intimacy in or out of the bedroom towards each other will always make you smile and love your partner more than life itself.
So if you are in need of a confidence booster in whatever way you feel EG: Submissive or Dominant, Mindful or Physical then let me know by messaging me on my CONTACT PAGE and we can discuss the subject a bit more.
Whether it’s a phone session or you would like to visit me, either way, I would be glad to converse with you via email, text, and then call.
Stay safe and healthy and hope to hear from you soon…
Wednesday 21st April 2021
As most of you know I have been working on sculpting my establishment to accommodate my appointments as much as can for some time now.
As the years have passed by I have been getting more niche-type appointments instead of ‘a bit of everything’ appointments as like other mistresses who may be more comfortable doing a bit of everything.
I do very much prefer niche appointments as then I know what to prepare for. In the past, I have always looked at other dungeons and guided my decoration from their designs but never been totally happy with it.
So over the last lockdown, I have put a bit of me into the area and made the space into what I feel comfortable playing in.
Don’t get me wrong, playing to some people means totally the opposite to my type of fun. When I mean play I mean controlling my sub and slaves in outfits that make them tremble at the knees and quiver in their subspace of fantasy.
So here are a few photos of my dream barbers Dungeon. It still has a little bit to be finished but as one of my clients that knows me for around 10 years said “You will never finish decorating. As when you have finished one project your mind will wonder about another” and that is so true.
At the end of the day, it’s only lighting and a different wallpaper to change the scenery and ambiance.
I will put more up-to-date photos in my gallery for you to look at over the next few days.
So do let me know if you would like to visit my Barbers Dungeon. As long as you are healthy and virus-free I will be happy to accept your request if it abides by my ruling.
I do have the essential equipment at the point of entry to my establishment EG: a Forehead thermometer, home testing kits.
If I feel that you are not to my level of health requirements I will either decline your appointment or ask you to take a test. The results can be seen within 10 minutes but the full result is in 30 minutes.
A good percentage of my clients are respectful and if they have any symptoms of any kind and they think is out of the normal they are respectful enough to postpone their appointment untill they are fit and well again.
So I will be happy to take any inquiries by email or texts. Then we can arrange to converse on the phone if need be.
Stay well and safe and most of all keep smiling…
Saturday 17th April 2021
Good afternoon Sweetie,
I hope you are well and have kept well over the few months that have passed.
Now how do I start…It’s been a little while since I last spoke to you but after 5 months of lockdown, we are now on the first or second stage ( don’t know which stage we are in but I know it’s either of them) of a slightly better life. Although Monday the 12th April people went a little bit crazy on the celebrating and I just hope that does send us plummeting back into another lockdown again.
I have been extremely busy with burring my head in the website business as like before. I am plodding through it but the thing that is slowing me down is perfection.
I’m not saying it has to perfect in a professional way but perfect in my way. As the years have gone past I have become a perfectionist in certain things and my mistressing and career (which really I can call it that now) are definitely one of those things that I am particular in.
I feel that I owe a lot to you. As without you, I wouldn’t be where I am today. You’ve helped me grow my confidence in many areas that once upon a time I wouldn’t even try to attempt, let alone succeed in my dreams.
The new website has also helped me decide to be the true me. I still am Mistress Lucy but to do business you can not have anything to hide.
So that is why you will see in many places I will be my own name and answer to my real name. I will say one thing though… if you want to session with me I must be known as Mistress Lucy and stay as Mistress Lucy or lucy on a friendlier point.
It puts me in the right frame of mind as trying to switch at the flick of a button is possible but you won’t get the best out of me that way.
A few people in the past because they have seen my real name on my email address they have addressed as that. I have been very annoyed with them back then.
This is why I say you need to address me as you mean to go on.
So I thought I would keep you updated with is going on with me at the moment. Many have thought I have given up mistressing because I have not been on social media so much lately.
I am still here but the website takes up so much time, you wouldn’t believe.
At one point I was working nocturnally for a good few weeks. This was because I would get into what I was doing and just continue on till my eyes would refuse to stay open anymore.
I did know at some point in the previous weeks that were getting closer to now that I would have to get back into a normal (I’m never normal lol) but a going to bed at 12 midnightish and getting up at 9amish ( i say ish because some times it was earlier and sometimes it was a little later). So I would be in routine for taking my appointments again.
So Monday 12th April arrives, the week starting back taking appointments….
It felt a little strange I will admit. I felt like a beginner again. I have moved my upstairs around to benefit the popularity of my appointments so everything was in a different place. Finding out where things were was a bit daunting ( like in someone else’s Dungeon) but i familarised myself with everything fairly quickly.
I was lucky as my first appointment was a gent i had known for a while and he wasn’t too hardcore. A little chatting whilst a trim of the outgrown hairstyle he was wearing and then mild tie and tease to satisfy his needs.
I always go with the flow. If you have a checklist in your mind and then the body language doesn’t agree with what you are doing it needs to change to accommodate his happy side of kinky.
I only take 1 appointment a day. As i prefer to take 2-3 hour appointments. Then if it goes overtime then it’s not a problem.
I don’t do what I do for only tribute but bills need to be paid. So this is why I say if it goes over time because we are enjoying ourselves (or i’m enjoying myself teasing you lol) we can carry on and I won’t ask or expect any more tribute.
I will say…Many have gifted me with extra tribute and actual gifts but that is completely down to you. I am not demanding in any way and do not expect it.
The rest of the week was my long-term eager clients/friends that were desperate for haircuts and another pair of hands on them in whatever way I chose to do so.
Being used to my own time for the past 5 months or longer has made me do as I please. Having appointments does give me a routine as I’m sure you agree.
I now truly know that mistressing is in my blood. I knew that before but the experience over the years has made me realize that I will never change.
The sad news of Prince Philip’s passing has made me also realize that I may have Mistress Lucy engraved on my headstone.
‘Mistress Lucy a powerful but hard businesswoman, that wouldn’t take any backchat from anyone. She will be missed but will be tattooed on every heart that she has punished’.
I’m not being down on the subject but just being reflective. As we all have a good thing or 2 that we would like to be remembered for.
Wednesday 10th March 2021
Good evening sweetie 😊
I have decided to change my blogs a little. Addressing it as if its a message to yourself seems a little quirky, don’t your think? 😏
So if you have been trying to contact me lately I’m sorry I have not replied or replied as quickly as I normally would.
The website that I am presently putting together is taking up more of my time than I imagined.
Take a look if you wish to but it has got a coming soon page on it. So I can hide it from you until I am happy.
I would like to have a big launch day that will unveil it in all its glory. So you can look through it and let it unleash all the emotions you could possibly experience 😏
It’s extremely interesting but very time-consuming. So if your not web savvy then like me before, I used to ask my web designer “can you change this for me please?” and expecting it to be done in 10 minutes it’s not always the case.
Now I have learnt more about it I am learning to respect him more and when we talk I.T as your call it 😆 (ark at me as if I know what I am talking about) I understand more of what he is saying.
So I do apologize for not responding but if you want to get through to me quicker then please text me and then we can arrange to talk if need be.
Appointments are literally resting on the lockdown rules but saying that when I do resume bookings I will only be taking my regulars for the first couple of months at least.
I would love to take everybody’s appointment but I am still very cautious of peoples were abouts and how much connection they have had with everyone else if you know what I mean.
Sorry to be short and sweet but I just wanted you to know that I am still Mistress Lucy and I haven’t neglected you but if I could lengthen the number of hours in the day to 36 or 48hours that would be very convenient.
So if you can do that for me I would much appreciate it 🤣
So on that note, I will bid you a good day (even though it is not that of a joyful day with the weather) and I will look forward to hearing from you 😊😷🙏
Monday 7th December 2020
Now for the clients that have known me for all of my mistress career or longer would know about my dream of having my own Barbers/hairdressers.
I would of mentioned how my ideas would of got me shut down by the authorities before it was open day.
Reason being that my ideas would be and never are regular ideas for a high street shop.
For as long as i could remember i have always had a kinky mind in one way or another and putting my career and fetish together seems a blooming good idea to me.
This past year has brought nothing but heart ache and sorrow to a lot of people. It has also given us lots of time to think ‘what does the future hold for us?’
We have all had to change our 5 and 10 year plans and also our retirement. I say that because I’ve just turn 48 years old last month (November), so now is a good time to think about it.
Its time to think out of the box and about what will stand you in good stead for the long haul instead of what is a regular type of job that will help you out just for now.
Just for now jobs wont care about you when there’s continuous lockdowns or another major recession. Businesses are running out of money to keep paying their employees and the government are wearing thin on spare funds.
So to think outside the box and working for yourself (self employment) means going out of your uncomfortable zone and maybe doing something that is unlike you.
You never know until you try…
I’m not saying to do something wrong but something that has longevity and will bring you in a regular income how ever small or big.
Regular income is a must to keep our heads above water and the arrears people from sending constant reminders through your letter box.
Unemployment wouldn’t be so high if this is how everyone thought.
At one point i thought my top floor studio was working great for me with such a large open area and plenty of space to do as i please but i was finding that my appointments were swaying more to certain fetishes than others.
When national lockdown was talked about i decided to make use of my second self employment fund and divide the area up into sections that would work much better for my appointments and enable me to expand in what i could do.
Before, i had many a idea run through my head but the pandemic had always put road blocks in my way to complete and make it work.
So with the spare time i felt it was a perfect to put my plan into action.
To many females the thought of picking up an electrical chop or circular saw to do some wall building would sound like to much of nail breaking work for them, not to me. I keep my nails short for that reason.
When all my renovation’s are finished then i will go back to painted long nails…maybe.
It wasn’t that hard work really and plus i enjoy it.
As the days and weeks passed and i could see the project coming together. It was very heart warming to know that i was getting closer to my dream then ever before.
To a normal person, what is normal these days? to say about the world of hairdressing fetishes they would not understand but to a hairdressing kinster you could say what ever you liked to them about the fetish and they would understand completely.
Clippers to setting rollers or capes to hairdressers outfit it all triggers off a emotion.
You see fetish is an understanding of anything that makes you feel something.
- F… Feeling
- E… Emotion
- T… Tantalise
- I… Imagine
- H… Happy
All of the above are all in the 6 senses we all have. So don’t knock anyone that likes a particular fetish.
We are all different in our own way which makes us unique in our own little world.
So when and if you do come to Mistress Lucy’s Fetish Barbers don’t be afraid of letting loose your fetish and telling me (as long as it does not include personal services).
As you never know i may be the only mistress your feel comfortable with.
My Barbers Studio includes all the regular type of equipment but if you have a particular fetish for something out of the ordinary then do please say and i will do my best to accommodate.
Well i have briefly mentioned to you about my exciting salon but if you do have anything else to ask don’t hesitate to contact me and we can converse some more.
Stay health and safe and I will look forward to receiving your inquiries when you ready.
Friday 16th October 2020
To all who have been following my journey through the years, you would of seen my website progression and what a fabulous success it has been. I’m not a film star yet lol but I’m happy what it has given me.
My web designer Peter is a master at his trade and without his help I would not of got this far, thank you Peter your a star.
I think I mentioned a couple or months ago that I am now looking at starting a membership website because this one has restrictions on what I can post in my photography galleries due to no login page.
Every website has rules and limitations granted but at least if you have to login then you have to be of a certain age to do so etc then that will give me a free reign to an extent to post more interesting content.
Also I’m hoping to be able to post videos as well as photos for a small charge. As I am fed up having to cut the costs with other websites and ending up with hardly anything for all the work I put into it.
This is something I will converse with peter about but I’m sure it is possible in one way or the other.
Something else I want to mention…
I am not going to go on about this too much as I know everyone is getting tired of what is going on in the world right now but unfortunately it is ruling our lives. More than what we ever wanted.
As from today I have decided I will not be taking physical meeting appointments for the time being. I have had to cancel 3/4 of my appointments this month.
Either because the pandemic has hit their work and they are frightened of contracting and spreading it or the 3 tier/lockdown has forced them to stay away.
The main thing is, I have kept healthy and virus free all this year and I intend to stay that way. So if I have to put appointments on hold for now then I’m afraid that’s what I will do.
I am still available for phone chat and video calls on WhatsApp and skype if you wish but not to meet.
Do contact me either through text/call or email. All the details are on my Contact Page EG: phone number and link direct to my email address.
“Oh this dam world, its like a rollercoaster ride that I just want to get off of but cant”.
Take care sweeties and stay as healthy as you possibly can.
Hope to hear from you soon 😷
Thursday 15th October 2020
Blog No. 122
Corsets have always been top priority in my likes list when it comes to outfits and dressing up. All shape changing attire feels fantastic, hugging the body in all ways possible and making you look like you would only dream about.
The most fabulous thing about them is that they can draw you in at least 3 inches or more on your waist but the only negative thing about them is getting into them.
Its not like a loose fitting t-shirt that slips on very quick and easy. Its more like a 2 person job.
When admiring a statuesque female in a corset, the onlooker normally admires what he can see but never admires her for the before hand task of putting it on.
To get a perfect shape there should be a particular position you should stand in so your maid can pull those laces in to perfection. Making sure each lace is set just right and the underlaying piece of material under the laces is flat enough to join both sides of the corset together.
If it doesn’t and there is a gap then the corset is the wrong size.
When it comes to my appointments it can be difficult to have all the sizes and colours of the corsets in stock for all my clients. So I have to compromise on the clients shape and what garment is chosen.
Corsets can be made in all different materials, anything from latex to lace. I have grown to love satin corsets which helped me make my mind up into purchasing the emerald green satin corset (that you see me wearing in the photo).
I have had corsets from this company before and they are very well made and very hard wearing. They need to be heavy duty really as when your laced into the garment the laces are pulled in very tight around your waist/rib cage and the strain on the eye holes and hook fasteners is immense. It has to be to get that fantastic hour glass shape.
We are not all built to a size 0 but not to worry because corsets are also made for the fuller figure, whether it be male or female you will be happy with the shape that it gives you.
Only with the right size corset will it feel like a second skin. If the wrong size is fitted it can feel uncomfortable in a way that you just want it off sooner than later. Also an ill fitting corset it can make your outline look horrendous.
When the bones of the corset draw your waist in the excess flesh has to go somewhere. In most cases it will give you more of a bust than you thought you could ever have, even on a guy.
This is what I was mentioning about a wrong corset size. If you are in the wrong size it can push your excess flesh in the wrong places.
Also the flap of material that is under the laces is there for a reason…
It is there to stop the laces pressing on your skin. As laces pulled tight on bare flesh can cut in/chaff and be extremely painful.
If you needing to wear it for a long amount of hours and your mistress expects you to bend in all different positions then you need to be as comfortable as you can.
Truthfully i think corsets were design by an angel and the devil together because it make the our shapes look heaven sent but it gives naught/wicked thoughts to any onlookers…
Saturday 3rd October
When a mistress has near on everything apart from multiplying more of what she has, your always looking out for different things to add to the collection.
This is what I have been doing over time but finding a lot of the same thing. It is not worth purchasing more canes or anal toys for example if it does exactly the same thing as all the other toys I have.
Equipment like all equipment needs to be worn in. So for me to have more things than I know what to do with is a waste of space and money.
Canes – Its all in the wrist and arm action to make an experience different.
Anal – Its all in the technique and how I use the toy on you to make it a different experience each time.
When I take my anal sessions I’m finding that my clients prefer my fingers/hand more than a solid piece of lifeless silicone eased where the sun don’t shine.
I think a lot the time when designers try to invent a new toy they come to the same conclusion. So all they can do is make it in a different colour or make it with different looking knobberly bits on it in a way that has not been made before.
My hands have a lot of experience in giving pleasure so they will be continued to perform the stimulation the way you all like it and better.
Although I have found something that I have seen in the past I over looked it before.
It will make grown men cry and balls shrive back into the body at the sight of it. Oh I love to see subs wince and the thought of what I will do next.
Being that it is made out of clear Perspex it means nothing is hidden and everything…I mean everything is seen.
The only thing I think that it has to be adjusted in the design is it needs a opening for the thallus to be easily put into place. If you are of a different girth to the open itself then it could be rather uncomfortable or damaging when you get excited.
So any small naughty boys out there who have done something you need punishing over, think wisely before taking the next step to you dream.
Don’t shy away from me boy… as you know you like a mature mistress to take a firm hold of you in one hand, given a good strong punishment to you with the other hand. Trust me…your never forget it…
APOLIGISES BUT DUE TO THE WEBSITE NOT BEING A MEMBERSHIP WEBSITE I CAN NOT PUT A PHOTO OF THE TOY AS IT IS TOO REVEALING BUT I HOPE YOU HAVE GOT A GOOD IDEA OF THE DESCRIPTION AS TO WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE.
DO EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT TO SEE A LINK TO THE PRODUCT I HAVE SHOWN ON A DIFFERENT WEBSITE…
Thursday 13th August 2020
I have send many clients with all sorts of problems with erections. Whether it be premature ejaculation to erectile disfunction.
Please don’t be embarrassed if you have one of these problems it is easily cured.
I have many years of experience. I am a very patient and sympathetic person.
Many may laugh and say ‘your not with the right woman’ but it is not as easy as that.
It can steam from a lot of things.
This can be a case of your mind over acting or denying yourself of a ejaculation for a length of time because your saving yourself for that moment you have planned.
Either way it is all in the mind of yourself.
This is a little more complicated as it could be many reasons that it wont happen or it takes along time to happen.
I have had many clients visit me with this problem.
They say “oh I’m sorry but he doesn’t work very now”. This could be because of age, medication or mind set.
I don’t like to call me a Erection Therapist but i am beginning to think I am one.
I have developed a skill that has been 99.9% a cure for many problems.
Now don’t think because this is an escort site that I would perform oral or something like that (i don’t do that as you should understand by now).
That would be far to easy and to be truthful but it could be very much a hindrance to the problem more than a solution.
There are many ways to cure many problems.
What to expect on an appointment…
As like always I like to sit and speak to all my clients, offer you a drink when you first turn up to my home.
It eases you from a nervous build up from the time you first saw my profile.
I like to understand your problem (don’t take that the wrong way as anything that is not comfortable in your life is classed as a problem what ever the topic of the problem is).
It helps me come to a conclusion of your condition. Every topic has a conclusion and without that I can not plan the beginning and middle part of your session.
All problems steam from something that happened in your life. Then once you have calmed and feel at ease with me we can then begin.
There is no one way to begin as everyone is unique and different in their own way.
A Therapy appointment is always best to be a 2- 3 hour time frame as then you have time to relax and slow down your mind.
The mind is a very powerful thing. If your thinking of other things then you will not have a very enjoyable time.
I like to start my sessions with massage. It can be anything from 10 minutes to 90 minutes etc depending on your level of relaxation.
Some clients take longer than others to wined down. depending on how busy your life style is.
So whatever you feel you would like to come to visit me about, whether it be something bothering you or something that is taking over your life contact me and we can converse and talk it through.
I will look forward to hearing from you…
Monday 25th May 2020
Hi everyone, I thought I would give you an update on what’s been happening in the time between my last blog and now…
As we all know, at some point no one knew the future to anyone’s career or lifestyle because of what we were being told through the media and from the leaders of our countries that we all live in. (I say this as I am not sure who is reading this and what country you are based in).
Now we understand what a hard job it is to be prime minister and how to control the population their countries.
As what he advises us to do it is down to us as individuals to do as he says to help clear this terrible pandemic up as fast as we can.
Unfortunately there is a greater population that ignores the advice and does as they please.
Enough about what I think and onto the future of appointments and fun fetish times.
I am hoping that my appointments will resume back on the 1st July 2020.
So I thought I would give you an update on how I am going to proceed with my new normality.
I say new normality because it will never be going back to the way it was before.
Although we are not 100% what is going on with this pandemic we all have to be super cautious and careful from now on how we proceed in the times we do meet people.
I may joke about a full body condom is need but in all seriousness I will proceed (as I have done) with gloves through out certain fetishes that I will allow in my appointments.
As everyone knows I don’t and hadn’t allowed any personal services in my appointments EG: Kissing etc so that eliminates out any contaminating of the virus.
This is one of the reasons why I don’t allow personal services to keep all body parts sanitised and hygienic at all times.
Also the main reason I don’t allow to get intimate with you or anyone Is because I prefer to keep those things for my own personal time.
The way I have work with my appointments has worked very well. So as they say ‘if aint broke, don’t break it’.
The newest service I will be bringing into my offerings is a larger photography service.
I used to and still do offer a make-over services with transformations from male to female photo sessions.
I am going to widen that offer to a vanilla photography service also.
So if you and your family would like to have a photo session or baby photos then do let me know.
A lot will say that because of where you found me EG; Adult industry that you wont be wanting to tell anyone about me.
Well don’t worry as I am going to be advertising in normal places as well as the adult industry.
Also when things get better I will be offering a call out service so I can come to you in your home or where ever you wish to have photographs taken.
I have portable backdrops etc depending on the photo shoot that you request to have to bring with me. So all will be near on the same as if you came to visit me.
The only difference will be is that my dress up wardrobe and props are far to much to bring with me so I will only be able to bring a fraction of them.
I will also d photography shoots with animals but I would have to come to you as I have pets (cats) myself and I wouldn’t want them disrupted as they are not used to other animals in that way if you know what I mean.
Also pets are more relaxed in their own environments so the result of the images would be much better for you.
So there you go your Mistress Lucy is branching out and showing you her true colours.
I have always had a thing for photography but never know how to make it my living, now I can and will.
As they say a rest is as good as new start…I think that’s the saying but you know what I mean.
So do contact me for any ideas you may have and we can converse about them in more detail to your specifications.
I hope your all keeping well and smiling through out these strange times and I will let you know when appointments resume asap.